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Reddit user callmevicious asked: 'What is the worst reason to have a baby? Why?'

Chances are you've heard phrases like "our little miracle" or "bundle of joy" or something in a similar vein.

Those phrases are usually used to refer to babies.

When someone really wants a baby, and has the financial means, emotional support, and maturity to raise said baby, then they should definitely have one. Bringing a life into this world, or taking care of a life that has no one else to care for them, is wonderful.

However, wanting (and being able to support and take care of) a baby is the only good reason to have one.

Not because you think it's what you're supposed to do, or you want to make your parents happy by giving them a grandchild, or because you think it'll keep your marriage together, or any number of other reasons people will give you.

Chances are you've probably also heard the saying "Every child deserves parents, but not all parents deserve children."

That can be very true if you have a child for any other reason than truly wanting one.

Redditors know this all too well and are ready to share what they think are the absolute worst reasons to have a baby.


It all started when Redditor callmevicious asked:

"What is the worst reason to have a baby? Why?"

Heal Me

"My dad had an incredibly f**ked up and traumatizing childhood. instead of dealing with his subsequent mental illnesses a person at his church told him to "have lots of kids, it will heal your trauma." so he had six and we ended up homeless at certain points and traumatized ourselves. idiot"

– No-Tailor5120

"To distract yourself from a traumatic experience (robbed at gun point)."

"A long time back, a coworker told me this after our conversation about what happened. She said it'd distract me .. then she said I was selfish for telling her that was a horrible idea."

– MissedPlacedSpoon

"A lot of people use children as a lackluster attempt at avoiding therapy, which is actually exactly when you shouldn't be having a child surprisingly enough. You want to bring a child into the world under the idea that you'll give them the best you can so they can be happy, not the other way around."

– GreasyPeter

Exposure

"To use it as a content on social media."

– Human-Independent999

"This is my baby, Beigeleigh! She's my favorite now that Roxynn is 2 and throws tantrums that don't fit my ✨aesthetic✨."

– CovfefeBoss

"Honestly though this happens."

"The one thing that comes to mind is a couple adopting a young kid from Indonesia (I think). They were well into the process when the adoption agency found them and saw that they had a social media presence where they gave updates to their followers on the process. The agency told them that they have a policy where within a year of adoption, the adopters are not permitted to post the child on social media or make any specific comments regarding the child."

"Instead of being reasonable people, they simply canceled the adoption process entirely. It truly is borderline evil, especially since they just wanted an adopted kid for clout and couldn’t wait a year."

– Ori_the_SG

Under Pressure

"Your parent(s) wanted grandkids."

– ninjamullet

"Ugh, my family would tell me that they'd pay for everything if I had a kid (money was my main reason I was waiting when I was younger)."

"I eventually had a kid and they haven't given me a f**king penny. Bunch of liars. My wife and I will jokingly bring it up when we see them. They always get embarrassed and change the subject."

– lovepig1337

"My mother: "I want grandkids!""

"Me: "you have 2 other children to ask""

– t0m0hawk

Scoring Points

"To compete with someone."

– Mobile_Prune_3207

"You get +5 Jesus points for every kid after the fourth one."

– unlockdestiny

"What prizes can you get with those points?"

– NoRJoke

"To save the relationship."

"It never works, it just drags an innocent baby into a miserable situation."

– eviehalboro

"This is more common than people think."

"I have to wonder if anyone, anywhere, EVER has actually improved a relationship by having a child."

"I'm sure some have managed to extend the life of a troubled relationship by adding a baby to the mix. But improving the relationship? Making it a relationship worth staying in?"

"I don't see that happening."

– callmevicious

If Everyone Else Jumped Off A Bridge...

"Because everyone else has one."

– justregularoleme

"This seems like the main reason for the people I know."

– emmiepemmie

Existing For Someone Else's Benefit

"To have an organ donor for later?"

– Fenfirae

"Unfortunately there are people out there with children with terminal illnesses that will purposely have more babies to see if they are donor matches for kidneys and bone marrow. I personally think it’s abuse."

– sunshinedaisies9-34

"Saviour Siblings! Like in My Sisters Keeper. Horrible indeed."

– p0tatoontherun

​If At First, You Don't Succeed...

"Having a kid for a specific gender"

– Independent-Blood-10

"Seen a lot of this, like the TikTok trend "Our parents wanted a boy so we are 6 girls and no boy yet" Like wtf are you going to keep breeding until you hit it? Sounds like there will be a favorite kid in that family."

– Drkz98

Caregivers

"To be responsible for their disabled sibling in the future (yes, i had a friend tell me she wanted another child so that her disabled son would have someone when/if she passed away)."

– Natti07

"This is why my parents kept me. My parents tried to pressure me into not joining the military or flight school because who's gonna take care of my brother if something happens to me? My dad has said multiple times since I was like 5 or 6 that I'm gonna have to take care of him when they die. I love my brother, but I want my own life too..."

– idc_anymore-fml

Live Vicariously

"Using them to fulfill your childhood dreams (Forcing them to be into sports when you weren't, etc)."

– Joetueant

"This was my dad. I'll never forget going to my little brother's gender reveal sonogram and my dad said, "I'll finally have my football star!" My brother is 19 and has always been a nerd. My sister was the most athletic of all of us and she purposely injured herself in high school so he couldn't force her to be in sports anymore."

– T8795

"Pageant moms have all joined the chat."

– Stellathewizard

Awww, Adorable!

"Because you find them cute. They aren’t a pet."

– k-Musician8345

Alternate History

"To fix your relationship/marriage"

– GoodAlicia

"Well, it would have helped Henry the VIII."

– lekanly

"I think you have to specify a son in this situation, but yeah. Imagine if Catherine of Aragon had a son or two. Henry might just be a blip on the radar of English monarchs without all the fuss and bother of 6 wives, etc. But then we wouldn't have had Elizabeth I and that makes me a little sad."

– reduff

"Yeah he probably wouldn't have needed to create the church of England either"

– ThanksverymuchHutch

"Imagine an alternative history where the coin hit tails and Henry VIII got his son, suddenly Catholicism probably gets a century more to reign in England, maybe even stopping the 30 year war from ever happening."

– TheSwecurse

My head is spinning just thinking about all that!

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