Everyone has different tolerance levels when it comes to what they are looking for in a significant other. What becomes a deal breaker in one relationship transforms into the glue that binds together the next one.
It's all about looking for that person who looks at your quirks and uniqueness with the wonder you deserve.
On the other side of that discussion, there are some traits women display that other women are quick to point out as run-all-the-way-away-to-the-mountains worthy.
Reddit user wanderingntraveling wanted to know what to keep an eye out for when they asked:
"Women of Reddit, what uncommon red flags in women should men be on the lookout for?"
Someone's personality can be a little toxic, and that's all that it takes to make you want to reevaluate your entire bond with them.
It's All About Me
"If she gets jealous whenever she’s not the sole source of your joy/happiness."- zoeelynn
A Drain To Be Around
"If you walk away feeling depleted after spending time with her"- LikeReallyLike
How Dare You Not Invite Me?
"Laying on a guilt trip if you're going out with your friends and she's not invited."
"Everyone needs time apart to hang out with their people."- scarletantonia27
Schitts Creek Hello GIF by CBCGiphyMaybe it's what she does in the relationship to "keep it going" that rings the alarm bells in your mind. Why enjoy the calm, loving peace around one another when you can do something awful?
Trying To Keep It "Interesting"
"If she's trying to stir up drama just so the relationship can be 'fun'."
"I saw this with a former friend."
"Spicing things up as a couple is all good."
"But if she's stirring up the pot by letting other guys flirt with her just so you can play jealous boyfriend so you can 'rescue her' from a situation she started as if it's some movie or something, STAY AWAY FROM HER."-geligniteandlilies
Setting You Up For Failure
"When she constantly traps you in difficult situations, like asking if she or her friend are prettier, sh*t like that."
"Sometimes they're just looking to stir shit and there's no right answer."
"Just run man."- sweetonionchild
Isn't He The Biggest Dork?
"If she makes fun of your biggest insecurities in front of other people for a laugh"- cerebralpancakes
Ha Ha Lol GIFGiphyAnd sometimes, some people are just that crazy.
Run, dear friend. Run.
You Have To Hit All The Marks, Or Else
"Women who follow 'rules' for dating."
"I have a friend who follows rules from Sex and the City."
"If she’s dating someone, they have to move in together at the 6 month mark, engaged at 1 year, etc., It always ends in disaster and she’s so focused on meeting those goals without paying attention to how her partner feels about any of it."-fuxkyouforever
Not Who You Are, Who They Think You Should Be
"If she’s always trying to change you ."
"The way to talk, walk, eat, dress, etc."
"RUN! nothing will ever be good enough for her, promise you that!!"- nolaswim
Alicia Silverstone Makeover GIF by filmeditorGiphyHa-Ha-Ha-I'm A Little Crazy
"Romanticizing being a 'psycho'."
"It's not cute, it's a massive red flag"-sannachan
Yikes...
"If she says she's on the pill and you never see her take it or any proof of birth control.I used to have a friend that would always say she was on the pill but wasn't... she wanted a baby"- Mundane_Pea4296
gone girl GIFIndividually, fine, together though...
"Some early dating-red-flags experience I had only a few days ago:"
"She has only male-friends."
"She has a good and tough friendship with her ex-boyfriend but says that there are no feelings anymore."
"She talks way too often about her other dates."
"She talks about another guy she's dating and that they meet often but that they both won't have a relationship."
"Don't get me wrong, not all the points are red-flags if they would stand alone."
"But all these points together give me the feeling that the girl is really toxic."- Lumpy-Action1318
Tell me I'm wrong, without telling me I'm wrong.
"Tells you your in the wrong but won't let you admit it."
"'JUST ADMIT YOUR IN THE WRONG.'"
"'I did something wrong and it hurt you I'm sorry I was 100% in the wrong-"
"'NO NEED TO YELL, YOU A**HOLE'"
"May or may not be based on actual argument I had.'"
Just Kidding.
"Treats you like dog shit, calls it sarcasm."- armyryk18
sarcastic sarcasm GIFCommunication is key
"Lack of communication especially boundaries."
'I like being physical and I know I have a responsibility to talk about that but it shouldn't be all on me to figure out what you like and don't like."
"Tell me and guide me as well that way we both get what we want."- blueking13
What are you keeping from me?
"If you do not want to talk about her and your relationship with your friends, family, and coworkers."
"When she demands that you spend no more than 90 mins with your family without her there."- atomicmisfitt
"If she quits taking her medication and doesn’t tell you until 6 months later."- g0thcowboy69420
Lauren Lapkus Shut Up GIF by EarwolfGiphyEveryone needs help every now and then
'You asked for uncommon so I’m gonna say never asking for help."
"Can be a sign of trust and vulnerability issues."
"I’m kind of slow to call this a red flag because in some cases, it is definitely workable but in others it can lead to more complicated issues."
"It depends on her willingness to be collaborative."- ColorPallette
Too Much Too Soon
"If they share naughty pics with you fairly early."
"They’ve been sharing with others and most likely have a preset collection of pics."
Always be ready to protect yourself. Relationships can be worked on, sure, but never feel bad for leaving if you feel like your mental or emotional health are in danger.
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