People Who Know Someone Super Rich Explain What Makes Them Different

To Drive...

"Years ago a friend of mine’s dad was trying to sell his start-up company and picked-up an investor at the airport."

"He was proud of his classic Rolls Royce and noticed the investor looking around, playing with the air vents."

"So he said 'Is this your first time in a Rolls Royce?'.”

"The guy said no, but it was his first time in the front seat."

~ LanceFree

...Or Not To Drive

"I used to do in person one on one market research interviews with luxury car owners and one thing that struck me after hundreds of interviews was that the only people who drove Rolls Royce's themselves were self made 'new money' wealthy people."

"The old money people all HAD Rolls Royce's but they were driven around in them because one of the reasons that you get a Rolls is the incredible back seat. If the old money were driving themselves, then they would have luxury cars but they very rarely drove Rolls."

"It may have been one of those social faux pax to wealthy old money to be in the same seat as their drivers or something like that but I never actually asked about it."

~ alwaysfailatlife

Sharing Is Caring

"Well the owner of my small company is incredibly wealthy but also rad as f*ck and he drives a literal tank on property all the time just for the fun of it."

"He also owns a very old, gorgeous estate from an extremely influential family (think Vanderbilts) and we throw parties there. But on top of it, he lets his employeees borrow it for events."

"So my husband and I are throwing an anniversary party (never had a reception) in 2024. We have the entire estate and all 10 bedrooms for a whole weekend and it isn’t costing us a single dime.

"If I didn’t work for the company, the cost of the venue would be upwards of $25k for the day."

"I never expected someone so incredibly wealthy to be so down to earth and generous. It’s exactly who I would strive to be at that level of wealth."

~ HistoricalHeart

"Hire a private chef for a casual Tuesday lunch with her girlfriends..."

"$2k, just like that."

~ Tall-Poem-6808

"About 25 years ago, a friend of my dad was turning 65 and treated 50 of his best friends to fly 1st class to London for 5 days, INCLUDING tickets to Phantom of the Opera for all."

"One of his products was just picked up by Walmart for exclusive sale, and he wanted to spend a small bit of his good fortune."

~ perfect_square

Time Is Money

"He managed time very differently than anyone I was used to. E.g., our meeting with him began precisely on schedule, lasted 30 minutes, and there was no chit chat."

"Before this meeting we had a pre-meeting with his admin to discuss expectations. The admin explained that we had to be on time, no introductions/titles just name, no small talk, no marketing, be prepared to answer technical and financial questions quickly and succintly."

"For this latter, if there were numbers we had to know precisely which page of the material had the information."

"When the meeting took place we were brought in exactly—to the second—at the start time. Sat down and within 30 seconds he was asking us all manner of questions."

"I had to field technical questions that appear to be asked not so much for whether my answer was right, but that I didn't hesitate. I also gained a healthy respect for my manager as he was SHARP and answered quickly and accurately."

~ frank-sarno

Simple And Not So Simple Pleasures

"When in elementary school my son's friend's dad was one of the 2 founders of Capital One."

"Mom had a secretary for play dates."

"Dad would fly to London to watch Tottenham football matches—had a permanent seat. Their London house was next to J.K. Rowling's."

"You couldn't tell by the way they dressed or their cars. But their vacations were the big difference."

"Their son loved a mango juice sold maybe 10-15min from their house. I always made sure we had some at mine."

"I send it to him via Amazon occasionally."

~ dcgradc

Higher Expectations

"One old money rich person treated me to a fancy meal and she was super polite and nice and tipped well, what struck me was the decisiveness and confidence that everyone there would cater to her, and they did. She wanted x dish that they didn't make that day and they made it.

"The one that sticks with me was at the end she said "I want a cappuccino with (something) I want them to put a design on it" like I've gotten cute cappuccinos in my life, it doesn't even cost extra."

"It never occurred to me to just ask for everything I want all the time."

"This was the same person that on a business trip hugged me after the flight 'I did it!' Me: 'Oh was this your first time in economy' and she goes 'No, flying commercial'."

~ woman_thorned

"The expectation that someone else will always cater to you is spot-on."

"I work at a really fancy hotel within walking distance of an ivy league university, and the super wealthy people just... expect certain things."

"Most people around them who aren't their friends or family are considered 'the help' (even if they don't say it out loud)."

"They also feel pretty entitled to things, like they will just walk up behind the bar and grab a bottle of wine that they want."

~ Dana_Scully_MD

Fines Are Payment To Do Whatever You Want

"In SoCal there's been a little problem with water so fines were instituted for overuse. $10k/month for really excessive use—water management thought this would really put a stop to wasting water!"

"Folks with enormous lawns at their 2nd or 3rd home in Palm Springs considered $120k/year a 'gardening expense' and continued on as before. It wasn't even a blip on their radar."

"Things did improve a bit when the whole situation was 'named & shamed' in the media... but I bet they're back to the lawns again by now."

~ qpgmr

"For a rich person, anything illegal that results in a fine can be ignored because they do it then just pay the fine."

"Lawyers and political donations are there for the rest."

~ bk2947

"Punishable with a fine' means 'legal for a price'."

~ fightingfish278

"Wealth allows people to express their pre-existing antisocial tendencies."

"Some of us go out of our way not to make life harder for others. Others just don’t give a damn."

"We let the wealthy ones get away with it because of their money."

~ iuseallthebandwidth

Delegate The Mundane

"That's the thing with the extremely wealthy, an overwhelming portion of the time and effort that ordinary people expend just maintaining their lives are taken care of by other people."

"It's very easy to find the time for social and leisure activity when someone else is taking care of all of the mundane sh*t for you."

~ tacknosaddle

"That's the real answer: they have people who handle things for them."

"I dated a gal whose family was 'well off'—dad had sold a company you've heard of for about $600,000,000."

"The whole family had a 'professional assistant', Janice. If someone needed something arranged, text Janice."

"Seven course catered dinner on Christmas Eve? Text Janice. Prep the semi-private jet for a flight cross-country? Janice will set it up."

"Need the oil changed in the Chrysler Town & Country minivan (seriously)? Janice will have it done. Need access to the family's private ranch outside of Aspen? You'll work with the caretaker, and Janice will coordinate."

"I got to spend some time with Janice and she was paid very fairly for her work."

~ persondude27

It's certainly an entirely different way of life. Wish we could text Janice for some things, though!

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