What people find offensive can vary greatly from person to person and one culture to another. Morality can be pretty different between different religions and cultures, and the same holds true for what is considered truly insulting or offensive.
Reddit user u/3choplex asked:
Perhaps most annoyingly, you might compare your domestic life to those of your other coupled friends.
Most of the time, these comparisons are fairly futile, as every relationship is different.
However, sometimes you may discover that certain elements of your relationship appear to be unique.
For better and for worse.
Redditor was curious to learn about elements in people's relationships that they considered to be everyday, but proved to be anything but, leading them to ask:
"What did you think was completely normal in your relationship until somebody pointed out it was weird?"
"Waking me up in the middle of the night to continue a fight."
"My first girlfriend (3rd year of college) was at my side every waking moment."
"No matter what I was doing, where I was going."
"Any movie, errand, we were NEVER apart."
"Second girlfriend didn't feel like going to the book store with me, and when I looked deflated, she said, 'Go without me; we can do different things.'"
"Never occurred to me."- Flailing_Aimlessly
"I thought it was okay to get a few episodes ahead on Netflix without my partner... until a friend pointed out that I was basically committing a relationship crime."- BigRusty1047
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"My last girlfriend and I were nudists in our house."
"Basically from the time we entered the house to when we got ready to leave for work we were both in, at most, boxers/panties."
"One time a friend was coming over to grab something from me while I was at work."
"I didn't think about my ex being home at that time and didn't think to inform either that the other might be there."
"She was chilling on the couch completely naked watching tv and he just came in without knocking thinking the house was empty."
"Everyone was chill about it, but he informed me how odd he thought it was that she was just chilling naked."
"I told him that that's how I lived too, and it really blew his mind."- Assistantshrimp
"There's still prejudice when a couple doesn't share a bedroom."
"In our case, he snores, I have a light sleep."
"We both move a lot during the night."
"I'm always cold, he rarely sleeps with blankets."
"I like to read until later, he likes to sleep earlier than me."
"We cuddle at night/in the morning."
"After resting properly, we are keen to see each other."
"The few nights we share the same bed/bedroom, I was miserable."- island-breeze
"We always close the door to the bathroom when using it."
"He’s seen me give birth, but we still are a 'door closed' type of couple and have never seen each other using the toilet."
"I’ve had people tell me that 'you’ll get over it eventually', that we must not actually trust each other, or that our relationship is immature because we want privacy in the bathroom."
"I’m sure it goes both ways, I find it completely crazy that some couples poop in front of each other!"- 1O12O7
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"Codependency... literally everything was done together to the point of... unhealthy."- Corgsploot
"My first girlfriend never came anywhere with me."
"She was a homebody, and I was not."
"In college, I was easily going out 5 nights a week, and she never complained once."
"It was like 2 years before she met one of my friends."
"That friend said she thought that I was gay and made her up so I wouldn't have to do things with girls while I was out."-esoteric_enigma
"Having a to-go bag with meds, clothes, books, toiletries, cash, important documents when my wife would get so mad at me I didn’t feel safe."- GrimCT3131
"After 15 years of being married together my ex and I developed a sort of language that caught some friends off guard."
"We were at a NYE party and the small party gathered around the TV to watch the countdown."
"As we were getting close to the moment wife was struggling with a strange remote so I opened my hand and made the 'ch-ch' sound meaning 'lemme have that'.”
"Wife responded with 'doot doo' meaning 'f*ck off I got this'."
"Brother of the homeowner busted out laughing asking us if we have an entire language built up… we kinda did."- Biff_Bufflington
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"I always had a NEED to be with someone as I was growing up, had an unhealthy home which I'm now dealing with the consequences from, some 30 years later."
"But for me it was common to basically find what ever girlfriend I could and just spend as much time as possible with them, basically sleeping over from like age 13 spending most of the time I could with them, because when I was alone my mind would spiral."
"The weirdest time in hindsight was when I was 14 and basically dated a group of friends."
"They would each be together with me, break up with me but go 'Oh, by the way, my friend x would like to date you now' and I would shrug and date her for a week before she passed me on to the next girl."
"It all stopped when I met my most impactful friend in my life, she was everything I needed while nothing to me romantically, so I would sleep at her place as often as possible, we always slept close to each other and basically cuddled, but we never did anything more than that and it showed me that I could just get that comfort without needing to do all the couples stuff of kissing and all that and it just calmed my mind to a point where I was content for the first time in my life."
"And I always knew that she'd be a stable point to return to."
"We spent a good 2 years like that before she basically fell off the map completely."
"She changed my needs in life though, so I'm always grateful to her for fixing a small broken piece of me."- Aurori_Swe
"My husband and I don't fight."
"Practically ever."
"We have calm discussions when we disagree and always find a solid resolution."
"Been together 10 years, and I can count on one hand many fights we've had."- Original_Translator9
"My bf and i got together because he anonymously made me cheese and left it at my door."
"It stole my heart when i found out it was him."
"Anyway, people find this story weird and hilarious (he still makes me cheese to this day)."
"If you guys didn’t know this is one of the only ways you can get a double introvert couple."- chipperland4471
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"Newlyweds, but even prior to that, whenever we go to a restaurant, it doesn’t matter the cuisine. We’d order 2-3 things we’d both agree on and share."
"We went on a double date, and the other couple was like, yea, we don’t share…"
"You get what you want I get what I want, didn’t realize it was a strange thing to always do, but maybe it’s because we don’t get out much lol."- More-Life-714
"saying 'I love you” often."
'When we hang up the phone we always say it to each other, when we leave for work etc we say it, it just comes out randomly."
"Like if we’re both busy I’m reading and him on his game we’ll just check in with an 'I love you'."
"i’ve been on the phone to him before and we’ve said love you bye but then i had to recall him for whatever reason and we say it again my friends made a comment about it and i’ve noticed when she hangs the phone up with her boyfriend they don’t say it?"
"Like this is something we have always done, mainly because say one of us gets into an accident we’d feel more kind of at peace knowing the last thing we ever said to them was that we loved them."
"Like even in arguments we do it we reassure each other throughout that we love each other."
"I guess it could stem down to abandonment issues and neglect from his point of view (very troubled past) and with me I like to make sure he’s loved and it’s always lovely being told that."
"idk."- ComprehensiveDog3799
Everyone has the tends to raise their eyebrow at anyone who lives their life even the slightest bit differently from us.
And being the recipient of that raised eyebrow, particularly from other couples, can be a very uncomfortable place.
However, as long as you feel happy and loved in your relationship, the fact that your relationship is unique is ultimately a moot point.
Especially if cheese is a factor.
One of the storylines follows the wedding of Juliet and Peter, played by Keira Knightley and Chiwetel Ejiofor respectively, and Andrew Lincoln's videographer character, Mark who is cold towards Juliet but is secretly in love with her.
The repressed desire and tension culminate in the famous scene in which Mark visits Juliet and professes his love for her via cue cards while Peter is home upstairs watching telly.
For a quick refresh, here's the scene.
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While audiences at the time thought it was a sweet and romantic gesture, the scene has now sparked debate given Juliet and Mark's 12-year-age gap.
While promoting her new Netflix series Black Doves with the Los Angeles Times, Knightley, 39, touched on Love Actually when the interviewer joked they were required to ask about the holiday cult classic given the Christmas season.
When asked to weigh in about the now controversial cue card scene, Knightley recalled:
"The slightly stalkerish aspect of it—I do remember that. My memory is of [director] Richard [Curtis], who is now a very dear friend, of me doing the scene, and him going, 'No, you’re looking at [Lincoln] like he’s creepy.' "
"And I’m like [in a dramatic whisper], 'But it is quite creepy.' And then having to redo it to fix my face to make him seem not creepy."
"I mean, there was a creep factor at the time, right?"
She added, "Also, I knew I was 17. It only seems like a few years ago that everybody else realized I was 17.
Redditors responded to a thread about the age gap, saying they had no idea.
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Some moviegoers claimed ignorance was bliss.
Others, however, knew something about the scene was way off while fans were swept up in the romanticism of it all.
Knightley told the newspaper that she only saw Love Actually only one time, which is a common practice for her in the movies she's done.
"It's nothing against Love Actually," she said, adding:
"It’s lovely because it didn’t do as well as everyone thought it was going to when it came out. Suddenly, like three or four years later, it sort of took on a life of its own."
"It’s the only film I’ve had that found this life afterward. The problem is, I was on it for about five days. I was 17, so I don’t actually have any memory whatsoever of it."
In Black Doves, Knightley plays Helen Webb, the wife of the Secretary of State for Defence. She leads a double life as a "Black Dove," a spy who has been feeding information to a mercenary organization.
The spy thriller series was created by Joe Barton. The show, also starring Ben Whishaw and Sarah Lancashire, was renewed for a second season.
