Life is hard.
There is just no way around that truth.
So many of us get caught in a rut or a trap, or a cycle of all of it.
Finding a way to change the course of life is never easy.
But apparently, it is doable.
Others have done it and succeed.
So let's compare notes about how to turn it all around.
Redditor ipeeontoiletseats wanted to hear from everyone who has given life a new course after some darker times. They asked all of you to share:
"How did you turn your life around?"
I need to hear this advice.
I'm all ears.
Over It
Who Cares GIF by Judge JudyGiphy"Stopped caring about things I can't control and put all my energy into the things I can. it sounds hard, but there's actually a lot you can control and that doesn't leave much room for the other stuff."
densestdenise
"bad neighborhood"
"When I was a teenager I was homeless. A lot of places wouldn't hire me because I had no experience or interview clothes. I went to the board of education and begged the HR lady to give me a chance at any job. I told her I'd scrub the school with a toothbrush if they paid me."
"They made me a general sub for clerical. I took a call for one of the 'bad neighborhood' schools that some others turned down. Walked across town to get there every day do I had to start walking at 4:30 am to be on time. I wore dress clothes from a church mission that were way too big but I did my best."
"After four months they gave me a long-term position. Then a permanent one with benefits. I saved up enough for an apartment (finding a landlord okay with renting to an 18 year old homeless girl was hard) and started college. I haven't been homeless a day since in the last 15 years. I even have a house now."
kalooboo
Never Give Up
"I quit drinking when I was 24 went back to college when I was 26 and graduated at 29."
LaineCochrane
"I had to take a break from college cause of depression and dumb decisions I made during my fourth year. I'm 23 and I still haven’t gone back. Always feel like I'm wasting my time, but this is inspiring to pick myself back up and go finish. Thank you for sharing."
saguirr97
"You are still so young! Go and finish it up. I finally went back to school last fall at the young age of 32. It's never too late!"
sunsguy87
You First
"Decided it's ok to put yourself first no matter what. I don't mean that go ahead and cheat and lie for your benefits."
"For example, I was seeing this toxic person for some time and I was the one always compromising and making efforts."
"When things finally ended, I chose to cut off all contact from that person while they wanted to remain in touch (for support or validation). I felt bad and selfish while doing it but starting to feel better about myself now that that person is out of my life."
"You need to be selfish if the other person is being selfish too."
aaebrownguy
Chances
Super Bowl Ok GIF by PepsiGiphy"Quit a job that wasn't making me happy, went back to college."
Shinespark7
"Just literally handed in my notice at my shi**y office job during a global pandemic/tanking economy to go back to college this September. I’m 29 and scared shi*less!! This has given me hope."
surebegrandlike
College isn't going anywhere.
Even you you go one class at a time.
Be Best
ichabod crane mirror GIFGiphy"I decided to stop comparing myself to my brother and try to focus on the improvable."
TheBearBearian
"That is great advice. Your brother is killing it we all look bad next to him. As awesome as he is, there is no real benchmark in success, and being our own better person is really what matters."
Nounoon
Finances
"Paid off my debts slowly but surely and worked my a** off to buy a house. Took years but it was worth it."
TheRealReapz
"Getting there myself. The debt part anyway. Would be faster if I wasn’t paying my way through grad school, but I should be debt free with a Master’s degree in two years. :) "
"I am very lucky and was able to have the opportunity to pay off all mine and my wife's debt. It's amazing how much more money you have when you don't have interest payments."
irocgts
Be Selfish
"Decided it's ok to put yourself first no matter what. I don't mean that go ahead and cheat and lie for your benefits."
"For example, I was seeing this toxic person for some time and I was the one always compromising and making efforts."
"When things finally ended, I chose to cut off all contact from that person while they wanted to remain in touch (for support or validation). I felt bad and selfish while doing it but starting to feel better about myself now that that person is out of my life."
"You need to be selfish if the other person is being selfish too."
aaebrownguy
Moving on Up
"Moving out of my parent's house. I was living with my parents (which is very common thing in India) until end of my med school. I've been in my comfort zone all my life and had everything I need. That led to depression and all I wanted is to live by myself and to get out of my bubble. Now, I can't say I figured it all but I definitely feel better."
yashwanthjoey
Feel the Burn
Excited Mood GIFGiphy"I heavily reduced sugar when I was 21 and started resistance training . 2 years later and I am feeling the best I have ever felt, have so much energy and self confidence because I actually like the way I look now. Clothes fit so much better as well."
eleuthero_maniac
So many ways to start again. Don't give up.
