From kindness to hilarity, there are some qualities that will instantly make a person more likable or attractive.
But there are some less-expected things that will instantly make a man more attractive.
Redditor Extension_Flan_6615 asked:
"What instantly makes a man attractive?"
An Air of Goodwill
"When he shows a sense of humor, not taking himself too seriously, and kindness."
- TheSaladInYourHair
Genuine Hobby-Sharing
"Attractive for five seconds? Abs and a broad smile."
"Attractive for slightly longer? A good joke or an actual compliment."
"Attractive like boyfriend material? Being genuinely interested in my hobbies and knowing how to explain your own without making me feel stupid."
- Aggressive_Tear_769
A Unique Skillset
"Owns a llama farm."
- leviticusreeves
"Cries in Alpaca."
- Folhaki
True Humbleness
"Humble confidence."
- AwkwardFortuneCookie
"The kind of guy who never acts like he knows more than everyone but actually does. (Swoon)"
- shegedep
A Clean Look
"Personal grooming."
"While it might not make you attractive in the literal sense, there is little that is LESS attractive than a person who stinks and wears ill-fitting, ill-maintained clothing."
" Wash yourselves, dress yourselves like you care what you look like, and you will instantly look far more attractive than you would otherwise."
- EclecticDreck
Kind to Animals
"Petting a stray cat."
- ZealousIdealKing2736
"Oh my gosh yes. Men that are kind to cats are automatically sexy."
- pussnbootsmeow
"When I see a random guy petting a cat, I just melt."
- zerowo_
Self-Confidence
"Self-confidence."
- Emotional-Sorbet-759
"I learned recently that 'self-confidence' is the most misunderstood concept in our era, mystified and distorted by the red-pill movement, even up to hilarious levels."
"Self-confidence comes from how much you know yourself, how you accept your limits, and mostly, that you won't be shaken if others won't like you. Self-confidence is high when you are truly content and happy with yourself, and you don't need someone else to make you happy."
"'Didn't she talk to me? Fine, I'm happy anyway, because I can be content with myself anyway.'"
"But it takes a lot of work, possibly with a therapist, to work on your demons and kill them."
- Joonto
Unexpected Physics
"Enough mass that he generates his own irresistible gravitational pull."
- DoggoToucher
Self-Sufficient Human
"One that doesn’t 'need' a woman to be a happy, healthy individual."
- Aries-Corinthier
Personal Preferences
"For me personally: A good sense of humor, Confidence, and Nice hands (it’s the artist in me, I don't know)."
- Whiskeybreathh
Deeply Authentic and True to Themselves
"Intelligence and confidence, nice smile, sense of humor, sense of fashion. But especially authenticity, I like people that look different, I am into weirdos but in a good way. And I also love it when they are into art and music."
- art_baby
Period.
"No fragile masculinity."
- ForestGnomeX
Honors Boundaries
"Knowing his self-worth. This isn't to be confused with being a cocky f**ker... I mean one that can recognize when a person, place or thing isn't for him anymore, silently removes himself and can confidently articulate his reasoning when challenged."
"Boundaries are sexy... to me anyway."
- InhalingBacon
That About Sums It Up
"I am a man, attracted to women, so these answers are the best I can figure out based on experience. Everyone has preferences so these generalizations sometimes don’t apply."
"What makes men attractive to other men: fitness and how willing you are to bang."
"What makes men attractive to women:"
"How bright you are. Doesn’t necessarily have to be smart, but whether you're passionate about something and active. Blandness and docility are not attractive. You need a sense of purpose."
"Your looks. Looks are part of attraction for everyone who can see. THAT DOESN’T MEAN HUGE MUSCLES for the young men here. Fitness is part of the picture but grooming and self-presentation are key. A big giant slob is less attractive than a skinny but well-groomed man with a nice haircut and smile."
"How you make them feel. Women will pick up on your character. Is he possessive or is he protective? Patient and kind or quick to anger? Is he honest? Nurturing (yes, nurturing. That’s part of the reason men with healthy and well-behaved dogs are approached more)?"
"How does he respond to setbacks and to being disagreed with? Women want to know if they’ll be safe and loved in a relationship and will try to figure you out before they get involved."
"That’s the best I have been able to ascertain. Yes, wealth is a big plus for being attractive. That’s true for anyone. The points above are more actionable and universally applicable. Wealth can be hard to control and it takes a long time to change your status, but getting a haircut and a nice shirt can be done more easily."
"Having passion and being kind, honest, loving, trusting, and brave are free you just need self-awareness."
- WhatHadHapenedWas
Selective Listening Powers
"Women answering: Takes care of himself, sense of humor, and doesn't take himself too seriously."
"Men answering: Has money and is tall."
- my_son_is_a_box
"Women: no, seriously. We want well-groomed men who are funny and kind."
"Men: (not listening) MONEY and TALL."
- grapefruit_witchhh
While we're all attracted to distinctly different people, it's intriguing to see how often some of these, such as personal grooming, self-confidence, and kindness, were mentioned.
