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People Share Their Biggest Relationship Dealbreakers That May Seem Trivial To Most People

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Reddit User imthejavafox asked: 'What's a dealbreaker for you in a relationship that might not be a big deal to others?'

In any relationship, especially romantic ones, there are dealbreakers. A quality or action the other person does that irks you so much, you don't want to be with that person anymore.

They can be big things. Perhaps you're a homebody, but your partner wants to travel. Or you disagree on your stances about kids or pets.

However, other times, it can be more minor things; things that may not bother most people. For example, my dealbreaker for my last boyfriend was that he could never let commercials play out during a TV show or movie. Once the commercials started, he had to switch the channel and watch something else, even though he then risked missing the other show.

This isn't something that bothers everyone, and seems minor, but it is a dealbreaker for me.

Redditors have their own relationship dealbreakers that they know would seem trivial to most others, and they are ready to share.


It all started when Redditor imthejavafox asked:

"What's a dealbreaker for you in a relationship that might not be a big deal to others?"

Reset Please

"Stopping the microwave before zero and not clearing the time."

– Ilostmypassword43

"I completely get stopping the microwave before the beep, I do that too. But just push stop a second time to clear the display/bring the clock back up. Super simple fix!"

– QuelynD

That's Pretty Specific

"If someone tells me they don’t mind giving my grandmother a ride to Bingo but then hours later they’re nowhere to be found and eventually you get a call from the cops that they were caught doing meth behind a Burger King."

– 6byfour

"Yeah I hate that"

– Dirtylittletryhard

"If I had a nickel for every time...."

– Yourcriticismiswrong

"You'd have two nickels. Which isn't that many really, but it's odd it happened twice."

– NitrokoffTheGhost

Yeah, That's Gross

"Chewing with mouth open."

– RetractionPodcast

"I have misophonia and chewing sounds are so incredibly stressful to hear."

– treefrogbc

I'm In The Car!

"bad driving. if you're texting, driving like a maniac, or having a road rage hissy fit while i'm in the car, count me OUT son"

– botticellibabyy

"I actually made my now ex-boyfriend take driving lessons (he’s 40 btw) before I would get back in the car with him. He was an aggressive and fidgety driver."

– BronxBelle

Do It Together

"Incompatible hobbies. We don't need to have the same hobbies but, as an example, if they're the type of active people who act as if they may die if they breathe indoors air, then we are not compatible."

sachiko468

Yeah, That's Weird

"My ex used to go up to strangers at the grocery store and ask their opinion on random items. So that."

"He didn’t actually have questions, he just liked the attention"

– Mirrorflute88

Speak Like An Adult

"I found out recently that baby talk is a deal breaker for me. Dude speaks 3 languages and he said "peeez" instead of "please" too many times and it just made him unattractive to me."

– NuttyBoButty

"I had an ex (first longterm partner ever, dated over a year) who wanted me to babytalk them. First it was just wanting to put their head in my lap in public (mortifying), then wanting praise for everything they checked off in their bullet journal (okay), and then it was "can you pet my hair and talk to me like you're soothing a baby puppy?" And I was like. Yknow, actually, no. I think they run an MCU-themed affirmations blog now."

– graccha

Never On Time

"Consistent lateness. Everybody is late once in a while because life, but when you have those people who are constantly late for everything, and they leave you waiting for them over and over and over again? I just find it so incredibly disrespectful and it’s a huge deal breaker."

– Joygernaut

"Or when you are together with a person who's always late, and because of them you are now late from everything as well. All social gatherings, dinner dates, apppintnents, where ever you are going together. My ex got ready to leave but then started a few more "quick" projects to do, whilst I was in panic checking the time and begging him to come to the car already. Really bad match, I have some trauma for being late so I literally did have a panic attack if we were about to be late, but for him it wasn't a big deal and he never understood why I made a scene of it."

– Sentient_Dream

Low Key Nights Can Be Fun Too

"Being an annoying extrovert. If you have to be around groups of people every day and every weekend and like to go to the bar to drink every chance you get AND if you talk too much, we’re not going to work out. I’m an introvert and a homebody that likes to keep things low key and we should enjoy each other’s company without having to talk all the time to fill the air. Luckily, my spouse is an introvert like me so we mesh well."

– pwa09

"Haha same I'm like you ever heard of a video game????"

– ParadiceSC2

A Little Respect

"Not respecting boundaries. Like “don’t tickle me…I hate it!” Them, “but it’s so funny…lighten up!”"

– dodoatsandwiggets

"God I hate this. My brother just couldn’t understand the concept of me asking him to stop doing something for no other reason than I don’t like it/it bothers me. Like do you respect me? Why would you want someone you respect to endure something like that if there is no need..?"

– Tiggerhoods

My Horoscope Says...

"People who base their entire life and personality off zodiac signs"

– Sir_f*ckaru

Ewww!

"Not washing their hands after eating with their hands….Licking their fingers and wiping it off on their clothes thinking that’s "clean enough….""

"Yeah i really hate dirty hands"

– Extension-Badger-958

"I had met a cute guy, first date went great. Second date he asked me to the movies. We ordered popcorn (with butter) and he went to town on it, licking all the butter off his fingers. Then proceeded to put his hand on my thigh and trying to hold my hand. I’ve never gotten the ick and been so repulsed in such a short amount of time. It’s a bummer because otherwise he had a really clean cut/great hygiene but I just couldn’t move forward haha"

– zuis0804

My Pets Are My Family

"If they don't like animals, it's an absolute deal breaker."

– SageyPhantomhive

"I dated a guy that would say your f*cking cat when he would come over but he wasn't being funny. He hated my cat. I couldn't trust him around her. I ended it quickly with him."

– Icy-Supermarket-6932

On The Other Hand...

"Also the opposite... Refusing to post a single picture of us together. It doesn't have to be slathered all over socials, but that one really good picture of us on the mountain top? Why not post that?"

– horsewangjackson

"This one hits close to home. Dated and loved this girl for a year and she wouldn’t even let me post a pic of us dressed up nice to go to my friends wedding. Felt like she was hiding me from someone."

– lugubriouspandas

I have to agree with both of those!

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