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People Reveal The Real Reason They've Completely Given Up On Love

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Finding love is something that nearly everyone hopes for at some point in their life.

For some, love practically finds them. They hardly need any time searching for the true love.

Others might have to work a little harder and be a little more patient. They never give up the hope that their one true love is out there, somewhere.

Then there are those for whom the search simply isn't worth it and have found themselves resigned to the fact that they may never find someone.

Whether or not that's how they want their life to be.


Redditor xeowa was curious to hear why people gave up on finding the one true love of their lives, leading them to ask:
"Have you given up on love, if so why?"

Fear Of Getting Hurt

"To me the price I have to pay if I want to be in a relationship is I have to be vulnerable."

"And at some level I just don’t want to get hurt that bad again."

"I accept this, and have family, friends, work, hobbies, and things to look forward to."

"So while I wouldn’t say I have given up on love, I’m not looking for it and would be very wary of any new situation."- hdhdhdhdzjursx

"Gotta be honest, pretty much have."

"The last person I loved romantically found just about every way to put me down and reject me, all the while pulling me back in repeatedly."

"It was not worth it."

"I'm going solo but still kind of hoping for Miracle."

"I like me."- ATXDefenseAttorney

Don't Have The Energy

"Yes, because I'm tired."

"Tired of going out to find someone to love, tired of getting to know a new person and being comfortable enough to fall in love, tired of learning new things about this new person and whether we are compatible, tired of meeting each other's families and getting to know a whole new bunch of people..."

"Being single may be lonely, but I won't be exhausted."- Avelevanstar

"Not sure if I've given up, but I am getting real tired."

"Having to get to know new people, putting my heart out there without knowing if I'll succeed this time, so tiring."

"I'm learning more about myself in therapy, and I've seen ladies' heads turn when I speak, I've been told I have a nice voice, but chasing a lady is so much work for so little payoff."

"Never had a girlfriend before too, and I'm hitting 40 soon."

"Each new lady is a learning experience but it's also incredibly draining."

"Sometimes I just wanna curl up on my bed and ignore the whole world."- Blim004

It's Given Up On Them

"I haven't given up on love, but I doubt I will ever love again."

"After 53 years and so many attempts that ended in tears, I don't think I will ever have that chance again for a variety of reasons."

"I spend times just trying to come to terms that I will die alone someday."- kalwayne3573

For Their own Self-Care

"Yes."

"For now."

"Need to repair myself so the next guy doesn’t have to do it for me."- Beginning-Match592

Lack Of Reciprocation

"Given up on love as I am the only one loving, the others just need me."

"When they're done, they push me away."- gameygamer15

Traumatized By Past Mistakes

"Ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love?"

"So that's why, though I hope time will heal me or sth."- guess_I_feed

"I was in a 10-year abusive relationship."

"Unfortunately I didn’t realize until very late and then I ended it."

"It’s too much of a risk to meet someone again as these type of people are very manipulative and you don’t realize the cruelty they are capable of until you are trauma bonded."

"It’s not easier being single but it’s a lot less heartache."

"I thank my lucky stars every day that I got out."- corickle

"My last four love interests either cheated or 'found a girlfriend'."

"It's left me believing I'm just not a person who can be romantically loved."- Owlmystery

Happy Being Alone

"I’m not capable of giving someone my all and I enjoy my time alone more than anything."

"Two failed marriages later, we chillin."- HDTempo

Life Is Good The Way It Is

"I had a big love."

"It didn't work out."

"Now I live a truly beautiful life alone and I wouldn't trade it for the world."

"I just spent the weekend with my friend, her toddler, new puppy and failing marriage and when I got home I nearly cried with the feeling of gratitude for my peaceful life."- spice-pop

"On romantic love, yes."

"I have so many social aversions and require so much space that I'm neither capable or interested to nurture such a relationship."

"I'm happier and more functional on my own."- USAIsAUcountry

Literally Don't Know What They're Missing

"Never been loved before, can't miss what I haven't experienced."- Allnutsz

Social Anxiety

"I wasn't socialized from the ages 12-22 and have severe social anxiety."

"It's hard to meet people when you're terrified of them."- owe-me

The true romantics should never give up the hope that their soulmate is out there, somewhere.

That being said, being without a partner is nothing to be ashamed of.

As the only person in control of your own happiness, is you and you alone.

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