Reasons to be single #1...
"Talking to strangers."
Do we really need a #2?
Dating is a game of life and death.
People meeting people? Nothing is sketchier.
It is, of course, best to know the truth about people up front.
Nobody wants to waste time on a person who turns out to be a psycho.
But that doesn't mean sitting across from a psycho is fun.
It's shocking the things that people will consider polite conversation.
Redditor Carrera1107 wanted to hear horrifying truths people told on a date, so they asked:
"What was that disgusting thing someone you were dating told you and it changed your image of them?"
Ouch!
“'Some things are better left to the imagination' after I undressed."
- russianflapjack
"Oh my God this is my worst nightmare 💀 I'm sorry you had to go through that."
- inferache
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Whacko!
"Only other gay guy at my (rural, Deep South) high school, super cute, I was infatuated. He was out and very confident, which I really admired. Finally scored a date with him and he ran over a squirrel on purpose on our way to dinner. Laughed his a** off when the tires lifted and then crunched. My soul left my f**king body, I swear."
- EmperorMrKitty
The Wrong Way
"After knowing him for like 6 years, he randomly told me he was really depressed I quit my old job and that I had lost a lot of use to him. The wording really threw me off, he was pretty good at masking so I thought he just misstated it--surely my use wasn't my career? Oh, no, it was. He said that a big part of his interest in me was my career because he had hoped to have one like mine, and it's how we met; some switching was a bit of a letdown."
"Eventually he clarified that even though I was now making OVER 5x salary to what I made at my prior job and had completely transformed my life (and shared a lot of that money with him, daily, from good food to designer clothes he liked), the fact that I no longer worked in his industry made him sad every day and he felt like I should have stayed in that industry to help his career by having contacts and advice, but he knew I was 'selfish' and would take that 'the wrong way.'"
- blueskybrokenheart
Pardon me?!?!
"'I'll marry you only if I don't get someone better.' We were dating for 2 years. She was the one who first proposed to me. And it's not like we were not a good pair. Everything was smooth until she said this and at that point, I just laughed it off."
"But once I came back home I couldn't stop thinking about it. I bought it up and it turned into a huge fight and she said she meant it. So I broke it off."
- BridgeEmergency6088
Check Mark
"While fighting with his younger brother about politics and who was right. 'Who has the blue check mark next to their name?' He was 48 years old trying to one-up his 34-year-old brother as if he should recognize his wisdom. Ahh yes, elite Instagram man 🙄."
- PeasOnEarth86
Excuse Me?!
"He saw an interracial couple with their biracial toddler at the mall and told me he didn’t believe in mixing races. I am biracial."
- Adventurous_Limit_76
"I'm biracial. I can't tell you how often I've heard that mixing races is 'wrong.' Once a teacher even said it to my face. When I was young I just thought people who thought that way were weird. I also thought the most messed up people thought that way."
- das_whatz_up
"I was on a date with a guy that said the same thing - 'I don’t mix colors.' He had also told me that his mom was native and his dad was white, and when I mentioned that the gears in his head tried their best to turn and he eventually said 'That’s different.'"
- FartyBanana
Flirting with Disaster
"A couple of months after an ex cheated on me and I gave him another chance, one of his friends who I liked hanging out with confessed to being into me. I told my ex/bf at the time what happened, and he said he knew and even encouraged his friend to try to hook up with me because 'you guys flirt all the time, so go for it and we’ll call it even.'"
"Made me realize how emotionally manipulative he was, trying to bait me into sleeping with someone else so I didn’t have a leg to stand on anymore."
- avioletfury
Evil
"I'm a vet nurse - while talking about the emotionally difficult day I'd had he said, 'They're just animals, it's not like you're dealing with human lives.'"
"Lost all interest and respect on the spot."
- BinChickenHO
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Ignorant
"First date. Guy called the waitress the N-word. Thank God she didn’t hear. He and I had an intense exchange and I saw his jaw lock up. That’s what my ex-husband’s jaw would do right before he was gonna lose it so I was on defense and a tad scared but I held my own. Then I made him very mad. I can’t remember what I said but I knew it was pissing him off."
"So I backed to find a bit and told a joke. He then made a half-serious joke about leaving me at the restaurant and I said good thing I drove. (I drove myself in the first few dates, as a matter of personal policy so I can leave if I need to). The date ended early and I never saw his a** again. How ignorant does one have to be to say that about another person? I don’t get it. I never will."
- gonzoisgood
Nonsense
"He told me he studied a type of dating strategy called the game. It was all about keeping women guessing and getting them to feel like they had to have you. It was so gross. And I don’t understand why he told me. I had worked with him for years before we dated and he was such a sweet guy. But that nonsense was the end."
- msjammies73
ICED!!
"Told me how she and her male housemate would take bets on how hard people she went on dates with would try to contact her and how long it would take them. Would ice out caring friends and brag about it. Then preached that ‘everyone should go to therapy’ Yeah babe. Some more than others."
- Hellofiknow17
Just No!
"I was seeing a pretty damm good-looking, intelligent woman I met at university until one day she openly made fun of a handicapped person who was right in front of us. Yeah, I was done there and then. She said I just didn't understand her sense of humor. I told her she was absolutely correct and left."
- octoprickle
Blocked
"I was living in Japan. I was dating a Japanese teacher who taught Japanese to foreigners. Not my teacher. The first thing he asked me when we met was to see my residence card. I thought nothing of it. I think it was our second date when he told me he asked his students the same thing and showed me a website in Japanese where you can report illegals for $. Kicked him out and blocked him on all platforms."
- digoryj
Psycho
"Honestly… laugh if you want. She didn’t put the shopping cart back. I was seeing signs that she may not be the person I thought she was, but that was my last straw."
- U_DontNoMe
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Why don't people put the shopping cart back?
It's so lazy not to.
The small signs and details are always the best road map.
However, one should never ignore the BIG red flags.
And what have we learned? A little censoring can't hurt.
That is, until it's time to spill all of the beans.
Best before the wedding bells.