Romantics often fantasize about dating the coworkers they find attractive and pursue them.
Some succeed in manifesting their sexual desires resulting in one-night stands that only lead to awkwardness afterward in the workplace.
Others find romance blossoming as the result of an initial desire to hook up.
Finding love at work has unpredictable results that are worth revisiting. Something Redditor Crafty_Scientist891313 found after asking:
"People who had sex with coworkers what your relationship with them now like?"
These Redditors found no love here.
Limited Interaction
"Non-existent. we only interact if it's work related, but if we're the only people in the room, we pretend the other doesn't exist."
– ConstantHamster
"Exactly the same with me, except I also have to work with her new boyfriend that holds the same position as me. Sh*t can get a bit awkward."
– DefenestrateMyStyle
Regretful Choice
"After hooking up, we both got fired from that job at separate times for unrelated reasons... we dated for a little while afterwards but she got super clingy just cause I married her for 12 years..."
"Now she's all like... living in my apartment and raising our son with me and putting daily smiles on my face so you better believe I'm not making the mistake of sleeping with a co-worker ever again."
– geoffbowman
Orgy All The Time
"Worked in food service so everyone was sleeping with everyone. I don’t talk to any of them anymore."
– srcorvettez06
"Once you hook up with one, it’s like a flare goes up and a sh*tload more come calling."
– Thebaldsasquatch
"When I was with the first one my initial main comment was about, all of a sudden the girls who wouldn’t give me a second look before, were now literally throwing themselves at me at work and when we would all go hang out at someone’s house later."
"I was trying to be a good, loyal bf so I never partook of the opportunities given me, but it got pretty crazy."
– Thebaldsasquatch
Unbearable Outcome
"I made the very dumb mistake of falling in love with her while she just used me as a rebound because she was mad at the guy she eventually got engaged to. We still work in VERY close quarters so it's f'king hard. I might quit because it's too much."
– Not_Guardiola
Bad Energy
"Two of my coworkers had sex during a summer party last year while being witnessed by some of my other coworkers. They barely spoke together before it happened, but now it’s even worse. I can almost always feel the awkward atmosphere when they are in a room together now."
– Maleficent_Nobody_75
Love is possible, after all.
When The Timing Is Right
"Slept with a coworker once, and it turned the work environment very toxic. Vowed to never do that again."
"Few years later, I found myself working at another company with a very beautiful colleague. There was a lot of mutual attraction, but since we both had bad experiences with work romances, we kept it professional."
"She started dating a guy, so the flirting cooled off. Eventually we both moved onto other jobs and lost contact."
"Then months later, out of the blue, she called me and pointed out we are no longer coworkers."
"We've been married for over five years now."
– Boxman75
Unpreferred Labels
"Pretty good overall. We did it, dated for a while, etc. She hates that I call her my ex-girlfriend now that we're married to each other though. So I guess it's a little awkward."
– nathanb065
It Takes Good Teamwork
"Married almost 15 years, two kids. Broke hourly employees when we met, put each other through grad school… a good team."
– Catflappy
"Almost exactly our story. We were both in college working shitty jobs at Walmart. I ended up going into a trade and putting her through college and then I went back and she put me through college."
"She’s finishing grad school now. Married 15 years own our second home got 2 kids. We made a pretty damn good team. Congrats to y’all nothing quite like finding your person."
– birdseye1114
Family Life
"I had sex with a coworker about 27 years ago. I'm about to go and ask her what she wants for dinner since both of our kids are out this evening."
– MiddleAgeCool
Love isn't always seen as black and white.
A Moment In Time
"Dated her for 7 years, great girl, great relationship, no regrets."
"Not with her now, but really happy I got to be with her in this life."
– Griswaldthebeaver
The Perks Of Sleeping With The Boss
"I've slept with one coworker who ended up being my manager for 6 months a while after."
"It was fine and I got all my annual leave approved for the year, including Christmas off. Haven't talked to her since she left town now."
– Lifestyle_Choices
"A pretty rare thing, being amicable with someone you had sex with after they get promoted to being your manager."
– MidorBird
"People tend to not tell the story so loudly when it works out fine. Emotionally mature people have casual sex all the time and it doesn't end badly, you just always hear about the meltdowns."
– Flux7777
Whirlwind Of Emotion
"Worked in food service for 14 years without ever sleeping with anyone, by choice, mind you. Then, this woman started working there. She was the most strikingly beautiful woman I had ever met. And she was engaged."
"We got to know each other as coworkers do, and I became smitten. We then began to text each other outside of work without an explicit word between us. I loved her."
"I ended up telling her that we need to stop talking because I was developing feelings. To this day, it was the hardest thing I ever did. Drank and cried myself into oblivion that night, ready to move on."
"One week later, she told me that she broke it off with her fiance. She moved in with me a month later. It was the best two years of my life. Then, one day, she told me she wanted to be by herself."
– israiled
Uncomfortable Reunion
"She later became girlfriend to a friend. We slept together (at the office actually). A while later she moved to another city. Had no contact and I didn’t know where she moved."
"Then a couple of years later I was at a party in my hometown where I met an old friend."
"We hugged and he yelled 'nice to see you man, you slept with my girlfriend!.'"
"I was confused."
– DoOrDieStayHigh
Pure Satisfaction
"I have sex with my boss almost every day and it never feels awkward. Just one of the perks of being self employed."
– Mr__Random
People who work long hours can find it difficult to have a social life.
It's not surprising then that many coworkers end up together. There's no preconceived notion of a coworker's personality, and you can skip past the awkward phase of trying to get acquainted with a stranger you met online.
But with the pros are the cons. What if the romantic coupling forged at work sours?
You still have to show up to work and awkwardly avoid running into each other or risk hearing gossip like it's high school.
There are so many ifs as to the outcome. But what if it works out?
As with most things in life, nothing ventured, nothing gained, amirite?
@GregAbbott_TX/X
