There's nothing quite like a mother's love...or her bluntly honest criticism.
Ready for a fresh start and a new look, TikToker Abby Cogan went to the hair salon, ready for a new cut, color, and style. She went for the viral Cherry Coco-Cola red that's currently going around with blunt ends and loose, wavy curls.
When Cogan arrived at her home, she unlocked the front door, was greeted by her fluffy Golden Doodle, and then called out for her mom. She followed her voice until Cogan reached a staircase, where her mother was sorting through items at the foot of the stairs on the lower floor.
Upon seeing her daughter, Cogan's mother immediately reacted:
"No! No no noooo. I hate it."
Cogan laughed nervously and asserted that she herself "loved" it.
But her mother was insistent.
"It's not you. It's just not you. You're so pretty blonde."
Then her mother changed tactics, seemingly hoping to inspire some regret in her daughter.
"You're pretty anyway. But as long as you like it..."
"But do you realize how hard it's going to be to go back to your natural blonde?"
Cogan insisted that she didn't want to be blonde again for a while, and her mother started to play the victim.
"I hate it. I'm sorry. What do you [want me to say]? You knew I wasn't going to like it."
"You knew it, and you're filming me?"
"What do you want me to say? I guess I'm glad you like it. It's just a lot for me to get used to."
You can watch the video here:
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Fellow TikTokers were heartbroken at the reaction that Cogan received from her mother.
Some saw their own mothers in the reaction and felt that Cogan's mom had pressed too hard to make this situation all about herself, what she likes, what she's used to, and even her own matching blondeness.
The most important thing to them, though, was that Cogan liked the look for herself, on her own head.
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Others adamantly agreed with this sentiment and hoped the mom would do better in the future.
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Just for curiosity's sake, Cogan also shared a side-by-side photo of herself, showing the different iterations of blonde she'd had over the years next to her new red hairdo.
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Fellow TikTokers gushed over the new hairstyle and insisted it was a glow-up.
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While Cogan's mom may have not appreciated the change, TikTok insisted that it was the right move, and they argued that even if it hadn't been, it's still Cogan's hair and not her mother's.
While her mother is welcome to do whatever she wants with her own hair, she should understand that her daughter is welcome to do the same, and without all of the unnecessarily rude commentary.