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Men Explain Which F**ked Up Things They're Supposed To Be Okay With Because They're Men

Men Explain Which F**ked Up Things They're Supposed To Be Okay With Because They're Men

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Why are men forced to be things they're not?

We are too far along as a society not to let the boys grow and evolve.

A good cry, a good laugh, a song, hug, a dance it out... can help anybody.

Or maybe just watch an episode of 'Grey's Anatomy.'


Redditor 040607AJF wanted all the guys out there to share how they "feel" so they asked:

"Men of Reddit, what is something f**ked up that you're supposed to be okay with because you're a man?"

Gents, it's time to start healing and growing.

Go to sleep

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"Having sex whenever she's in the mood. And if I say no she thinks something wrong with her so you get pressured into doing it so she won't be mad or feel sad."

dabbiedabbiedoo

Grief

"30 year old male from India. Lost my dad 20 days back in an accident Relatives and well wishers spend time talking and pacifying mom/sister and listen to them with patience. To me before they leave- 'Now it's your responsibility to take care of your mom/sister' and nothing else."

"What about my grief of losing a parent? How do I handle it? Who is going to pacify me? Who listens to me? Without support from my wife and my friends, I could have gone insane the way people expect me to treat grief."

pgaravindhsf

Red Flags

"Depression and loneliness, as much as I wish I could say the support gotten better it hasn’t. I see the 'mens mental health awareness month' bulls**t all over social media for a day once a year but then nobody speaks about it. Being depressed or saying you’re lonely can often be seen as a cry for attention or a 'red flag' for partners."

"People on social media think posting some picture of 'We need to support our men in the world!' Is going help, it doesn’t. If you legitimately care about the men in your life’s mental health please reach out to them and ask how they’ve been. Don’t compare to them and don’t undermine them just understand them. It does so much for them."

Senior-Place-7627

“figure it out”

"The fact that a lot of men have no guidance and are supposed to just figure s**t out or just know yet people will treat you like s**t for not knowing."

DeepTalkTv

"When I was younger I was always told to 'figure it out' cause I’m a man. Every time I needed help whether it be homework, a flat tire, or something I genuinely needed help with like applying for college/fafsa I was turned away because it was my problem. Now if any family needs my help I’m demonized if I say no. Like wtf man I was taught not to bother y’all why are y’all bothering me?!?"

Mountain_Ad1797

911

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"You can ask for my help, but I can't ask for yours."

spenser1994

Leave me be...

"Some women should understand that men can be 'not in the mood' as well. I don't know why many people think that men will never say 'no.' I saw many on Twitter, sadly both men and women, thinking that men are these cartoonish wolves that will start salivating and have their eyes turn into hearts when anyone mentions the word 'sex.'"

Inevitable_Count_370

Out of the Norm

"Getting weird judgment from others for not conforming to the ‘traditional’ male role in a marriage or family. My wife is a highly driven genius, makes a great living, and loves what she does. I’m full time in the arts, and I’m not completely dependent on her, but I don’t have traditional employment or make a lot of money."

"I’ve had people in my life (especially older people) throw shade at me for not being ambitious enough or not having a real career. But together we’re doing much better than okay, and I’m probably gonna be the main caretaker when/if we have kids. I feel that if she were a man and I were a woman, nobody would question it at all."

LovesRefrain

Mind Games

"We aren't taught how to deal with emotions. (Mental health too)."

"I'm not advocating for men to be super-soft emotional wrecks, or to cry five times a week. But man I wish I knew I wasn't 'wrong' or 'weak' or 'avoiding becoming a man' just because I was sad, depressed, anxious and trying to deal with past events."

Maestroifuplz

"So many women in my lifetime have acted like I’m not a strong guy because I show emotion. I have a big heart and I’m not going to change that for anyone. But I’ve had relationships take an immediate downturn when I showed any kind of sensitive side."

Gamur

A New Leaf

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"That If I ever finish my AA and teach preschool that I’ll be seen as a threat to children."

bahardesty

"I have known two men attempt to enter the teaching profession. My advice is don't! It really is not worth your time."

raceAround126

Oh gents, we all still have a long way to go.

Do you have anything to add? Let us know in the comments below.

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