I've been left gobsmacked by so many people and what they believe is appropriate conversation or commentary; people that were strangers and acquaintances. Like, it's never ok to comment sexually in an aggressive matter. Flirting is one thing. Flirting is fun. But really think hard about the line between a compliment and a crime.

Weeping

When I was a child, an adult male family member told me he would get "perverse pleasure" in making me cry.

In my 30s now, and if I have to cry I still make every effort to do it in private.

scalder

How Much?

When I was at University, during the summer I go back home and work on farms, mostly picking up hay. Every year there'd be different workers. Some good, some bad. Some - well, one ‐ downright scary.

This one bloke had been in the Mongrel Mob - a gang in New Zealand. He, though, wasn't too bad a chap. Quite funny and hard-working. Just what you want on your team when you're spending 10 hours a day picking up hay bales.

One day, I was driving the truck to another farm with him riding shotgun. We started talking about one of the other workers. I knew him from Uni and he had come up for the work on my suggestion. At uni he seemed a decent sort. But he soon showed his true colours of being a racist pos.

I was complaining about the him, apologising for being responsible for him being there. I jokingly suggested maybe we could arrange a "farm accident". Tractor back over him, a stack of hay bales collapse on him. That sort of thing.

At this point the mongrel mobster casually mentioned he knew people who, for just $5000, would kill and dispose of anyone. Said they had a set-up out in the bush (NZ speak for middle of nowhere) where they'd feed the body to pigs then dispose of any remains (teeth, bones) in an acid bath.

The completely casual way he spoke of this was really unsettling.

Silly-Power

The Ex

Towards the end of our marriage, my ex husband got really angry with me one day and began to explain in detail how he could murder me and get away with it. He laid out every detail and gave rationales behind each one to prove why his method would be fool proof and result in him never getting caught.

It really made me open my eyes to his abuse and fear for my life knowing he had been meticulously planning this out in his head. It made it worse that he had gotten to the point that he was comfortable sharing this with me, as if I wouldn't be around long enough to do anything about it.

hail_mary_jane

“do you want to see it?” 

I went to middle school in a not so good neighborhood so lots of kids were involved in gang activity. this one kid had some anger issues but honestly wasn't a bad person and we got along well. one day in class he leans over and asks "do you want to see it?" and before i could reply he flashes a gun from his bag. immediately my face fell and he follows it up with "don't worry, you're good."

This could have VERY EASILY been a much worse situation. middle school me wasn't smart enough to tell anyone, but i told him to leave it home since the staff could check our lockers and bags. i wasn't worried about him using it in school, but i should have been. thank goodness nothing ever happened.

killakirakira

Hello Dateline NBC

I had a co worker tell me "I Could probably just kill someone and not feel anything about it. Especially if they had it coming" mind you, this was after we got done chatting about his mutually toxic relationship...

ElectricKettleGoBoom

Hi

Not told me but showed me. When I was in middle school this girl sat by me at the lunch table and showed me that she carved my name into her arm and then went on to tell me she loved me. I had never said anything more than hi while walking by her before that.

Elegant_Earthworm

Foreshadowing?

In high school a girl a year older than me wrote "death waits for no one" in my year book. She passed away a few years later and I still think about what she wrote...

Edit: some of you have asked, she passed away in a car accident.

eastsidecousincoven

From Beneath...

I was staying with my friend, who has a 4 year old son. She informed me as we were going to bed that sometimes her son sneaks in her room at like 4 am, sits under the bed, and whispers to himself... I slept well that night hahaha.

Itbe_like_tht

For some reason this reminds me of an old dog I used to watch.

He looked like a gargoyle and smelled really bad. In the middle of the night he would walk over to my bed with his long nails tapping on the wood floor. He would just stand next to my face staring at me and smelling bad. He also has bulging white cataracts that would glow in the moonlight.

Cutenoodle

In the Back...

We were both high at a cabin in the backwoods somewhere, and my friend turned to me fully serious and said "I see people who aren't there. Even when I'm sober."

"Do you see them now?"

"No, but there were others with us in the hot tub earlier."

That messed me up for the rest of the weekend.

XJFlaxon-Waxon

Cut to the exit...

This was stupid on my part.

Met up with a guy I knew from a video game, he gets in my car and the first thing he does is whip out a knife and tell me he likes knives. Knew I would never do that crap again after that.

epiphronn

This is why retail shopping is done. At least when we order at Amazon we don't have to worry about having to fend off freaks. Well... unless he's the UPS guy or girl. Being amongst the general public is just too much sometimes.