Teaching kids the pre-fixes and honorifics a person might use is an important lesson for navigating through society. Even if they're outdated and falling out of favor, it's useful to know what the possible options are.
But how do you teach them in 2022 when these sorts of things are in a state of flux?
Let's start with an example of how NOT to teach it.
Honorifics change for all people in accordance with their accomplishments and the given situation.
Some people might be a Mr. or Ms. or Mx. Others might be a Prof., a Rev., or even a Dr..
Women, the gender for whom honorifics have traditionally changed with marriage, might love to be called Mrs. or they might not.
Traditions evolve, and it's a practice that's falling out of favor. More and more women are choosing to keep their names and/or stick with Ms. because they don't feel defined by their marriage.
Since there are so many options, it's social policy and considered best business practice to just ask someone how they'd like to be addressed.
We could teach kids to just ask, too. The school Stephanie Taylor's son attends went a different direction.
Straight to the worksheet.
@stephptaylorCLT/Twitter
She's applauding the way he chose to answer an outdated and sexist question on that worksheet, and Twitter is joining her with a standing ovation.
The worksheet image shows three female figures. Sarah, the figure jumping rope, is labeled as "under age 18." Mary, the woman in the middle, is holding a sign that says "unmarried or unknown marital status."
Lara, the figure far right, is the focus of the question. She is shown in profile, with a detail shot of her hand, focusing on a ring on her finger. Under the drawing it says "married or widowed."
The question:
"Is Lara a Miss, Ms., or Mrs.?"
Women being defined solely by their marital status is not a vibe as far as this kid is concerned.
My 8 yo with the worksheet mic drop. #thekidsarealrightpic.twitter.com/uivfxn89eK— Stephanie parks taylor (@Stephanie parks taylor) 1645214487
He wrote:
"I think she is a Dr."
As adults, we would just ask how a person wants to be addressed so why teach children to make assumptions?
Nobody wants to be the person to call a widow "Mrs." and make her cry or make an assumption based on jewelry. So why not teach kids the same?
Twitter hates this assignment.
This is not only a ridiculous waste of time but also factually incorrect. Any married woman can choose to be called Ms, especially if she uses her own last name. In English, Mrs is only correct for a married woman who has taken her husband\u2019s last name AND ASKS TO BE CALLED MRS.— Dr. Sarah Taylor (@Dr. Sarah Taylor) 1645369527
What in the 1954 is going on with this assignment?!\n\nBut the kid\u2019s response is *chef\u2019s kiss* #itsdractuallyhttps://twitter.com/StephptaylorCLT/status/1494764017805676546\u00a0\u2026— Nicole Carleton (@Nicole Carleton) 1645662886
First, I love Dr. Second, why are we still teaching children different forms of address for women based on marital status? It's Ms. I remember women fighting for it in the 70s. Honor those women.— Octobermystic (@Octobermystic) 1645287092
Fantastic #Woman & mother, raising an amazing, progressive, EDUCATED son! #thekidsarealright #kids !https://twitter.com/StephptaylorCLT/status/1494764017805676546\u00a0\u2026— Mireya Louise (@Mireya Louise) 1645565093
Not only did I insist on being called/addressed as Ms, but I didn\u2019t change my surname when I married twice. I\u2019m 76.— Fillum (Ann) \ud83d\udfe5#FBPE #JKR\ud83d\udd77#JohnsonOut\ud83d\udc99\ud83d\udc9c\ud83e\udd0d\ud83d\udc9a (@Fillum (Ann) \ud83d\udfe5#FBPE #JKR\ud83d\udd77#JohnsonOut\ud83d\udc99\ud83d\udc9c\ud83e\udd0d\ud83d\udc9a) 1645485724
Great answer! Ridiculous worksheet! It's 2022!!!! In all my years as an Educator, I've never seen such a foolish worksheet. The teacher should not have assigned it!https://twitter.com/StephptaylorCLT/status/1494764017805676546\u00a0\u2026— Joanna B. (@Joanna B.) 1645489161
This winds me up so much! Buying a house last year, the agent insisted I had to specify.\n\nI said \u2018Baroness\u2019. I ALWAYS make up a title. It\u2019s 2022. Women shouldn\u2019t be reduced to whether we have a husband or not— Rebecca Williams (@Rebecca Williams) 1645305727
I've always ALWAYS preferred "Ms."https://twitter.com/StephptaylorCLT/status/1494764017805676546\u00a0\u2026— Alison Bob, Cryptographer (@Alison Bob, Cryptographer) 1645405736
Why are women defined by their relationship status in today's world? I know it dates back to when women were seen as a man's belonging, but surely this needs to be addressed in today's society. I am a person and a woman. At work I am referred to as Miss by my choice (teacher).— EJRowan (@EJRowan) 1645281027
I love this soooooo much! This kid will do big things in life.https://twitter.com/StephptaylorCLT/status/1494764017805676546\u00a0\u2026— \ud83c\udf39\ud83c\udf39 Rosey Lee\ud83c\udf39\ud83c\udf39 (@\ud83c\udf39\ud83c\udf39 Rosey Lee\ud83c\udf39\ud83c\udf39) 1645543969
Why is there even a worksheet about this?! You could have plenty of talk and discussion in class about the relevant titles, outdated or not, but I really don't think this topic requires an actual worksheet— Br\u00edd (@Br\u00edd) 1645372426
It's pretty clear how people feel about the assignment and this 8-year-old's spot on response.