The Absolute Best Ways To Get Over An Ex

Dive Into A Hobby

"When my wife left me I immediately started a woodworking project."

"I had to stop and cry every hour or so but at least I had my mind occupied some of the time."- Ozonewanderer

"Find a new hobby."

"Something to occupy your mind in your free time."

"Something easily accessible that can cost very little if you’d like it to."

"Dungeons and Dragons, a period of history, buy an inexpensive guitar and learn to play, things like that."- MrsAndMrGee

Stop Holding On...

"The biggest thing for me is to let go."

"Let go of everything you were looking forward to."

"Everything you wanted to do."

"You no longer want to do those things."

"Every time you begin down a conversation in your head you wanted to have, let go."

"It’s hard but you’ve got to reformulate your life without them."

"They’re not coming back."- mistaniceguy

"The Longest Distance Between Two Places."

"Time."

"It takes a lot of time."

"Can't fast forward it."- CpuJunky

Unplug!

"I know it sounds very cliché but just go on about your day, and for the love of every single god do not stalk their social media it'll only make it harder for you."

"It will hurt the first few weeks of course, nothing you can do about that."

"Also, find a hobby or meet new people, maybe start doing something you used to before you started dating but stopped because you didn't have the time anymore."

"My last breakup was a relationship that lasted almost 7 years, that bad feeling lasted a few months and I started dating someone else one year after that."

"I'm really emotional so if I survived that, you'll be just fine."- ChillOnTheHillz

Tell Them How You Really Feel... Without Actually Telling Them.

"It gets easier with time, but goes faster if you take steps to get in the proper mindset."

"I became a man-whore for a while."

"It was distracting, but it felt so empty."

"What helped me the most was writing her a long email about her faults and sh*tty behavior."

"If you do this, don't hold anything back."

"Do NOT send this email."

"It's therapy for you, not for them."- Ben_Thar

Think It Over

"Actually rationalize it."

"Understand your loss and why you might think you lost more than you really did."

"If it ended because they didn't love you or loved you less than you loved them, understand that you only lost someone who didn't love you, so in reality you didn't lose anything of real worth."

"You'd never be happy long term in a relationship where they didn't truly love you back."- Furicist

Put Yourself First

"I found the best way to get over an ex was to date myself."

"Sounds sooooo cheesy, I know. but I spent time rediscovering this new me."

"I spent a LOT of time with my family and friends, I volunteered, I explored my hobbies, took on a few more shifts at work basically loving on myself."

"It helped me a lot!"- LikeINeverSaid

At The End Of The Day, There Is No Right Or Wrong

"Went through this for the first half of this year and still struggle occasionally, so here are my few cents."

"When you catch yourself starting an imaginary conversation or ruminating on them, acknowledge it and bring your mind away from it."

"Focus on the present."

"Practicing meditation will help you do this more effectively."

"Work out."

"If you do a challenging activity like running you’ll be busy thinking about the fact that you’re f*cking dying and still have a ways to go before you get back home, and your breakup will be the least of your concerns at that moment."

"In the end you’ll feel good because you actually did something, and you’ll feel like you’re making progress on something."

"Vent to your friends."

"You’ll annoy them eventually, but that’s okay for now."

"If you don’t want to annoy your friends, vent to chatGPT.""It may sound stupid, but it’ll acknowledge your feelings and give you some generic advice."

"It’ll help get things out of your system."

"Read 'Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love'."

"I burned threw this book in a couple of days and it was like therapy."

"Do a quick search and you’ll find the audiobook for free on YouTube."

"Going to a few therapy sessions will help you work through your feelings with someone who’s there to give you their full attention for an hour."

"Write a list of things you didn’t like about your ex."

"If they dumped you for no reason other than 'I’m just not feeling it' or blindsided you, they are untrustworthy, lack communication skills and are incapable of committing and putting in the work necessary for a relationship."

"That’s not the person you want to be with and that should be item #1."

"Otherwise, I’m sure you can think of things to write down."

"Join a new club, sign up for a class, start doing a new hobby, make new friends."

"If the breakup is extremely recent (less than 2 weeks), let yourself be sad."

"Let it wash over you, experience it, accept that heartbreak is the most human of emotions."

"We all go through it, there are millions of people on the same boat as you right now."

"Cry, lay down and do nothing, listen to sad music, do all of that, but once the two weeks are up you have to stop. It’s time to do the things I described above."

"This is a time for you to reconnect with yourself and find who you want to be apart from the influence of someone else."

"This is your opportunity to level up."

"This is a months long process, but you got this and I’m rooting for you!"- Zwolfer

Patience Is A Virtue...

"Wait 30 years and it eventually goes away."- prajnadhyana

Just Find The Joy... Except In Your Relationship...

"Oh man here we go."

"Excercise and try to do things that make you feel better about yourself, new outfit/hairdo etc."

"Surround yourself with friends and family."

"Plan fun events with them etc."

"Write down the terrible things from the relationship."

"Your brain will try to remember the best."

"Don't forget why it's over."

"Do Not. I repeat. DO NOT. Try to contact them."

"Be strong. "

"Erase their phone number."

"Unfollow social media."

"Contacting them will only result in being ignored (more pain) or receiving a response that might continue hope of a future."

"Best of luck."

"Sh*t isn't easy, but it WILL GET EASIER."

"Not immediately, but it will."- littlemegzz

Some relationships simply aren't meant to be.

Which doesn't make getting over ending them any easier.

But dwelling in the past will never do any good, the only thing to do is move forward and accept the present for what it is: a present.