A student in Nashville, Tennessee was denied entry to their senior prom for not wearing a dress. The community responded by giving them "the ultimate prom" of their own.
B Hayes—who uses the pronouns they/he—posted a photo on Instagram showing them wearing a suit outside the prom venue holding a sign that read:
"They wouldn't let me in because I'm in a suit."
In the caption, Hayes explained:
"My name is B Hayes. I'm 18 years old and I've been attending Nashville Christian School for 13 years."
"My senior prom was today and I wasn't allowed in the doors because I was wearing a suit."
"I should not have to conform to femininity to attend my senior prom. I will not compromise who I am to fit in a box."
"Who are you to tell us what it means to be a woman?"
You can view the post below.
Country music star and hard-hitting LGBTQ+ ally and advocate Maren Morris commented on the post:
"I love wearing suits and you look amazing."
"What is your school gonna do come graduation day when the boys have to wear cap and GOWNS?"
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Others also expressed their disappointment in the school's actions.
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Hayes' post quickly went viral, and the masses flooded Twitter with their opinions.
Nashville Christian School told NPR "it has established dress requirements for daily school attendance and at our special events."
"All students and families are aware of and sign an agreement to these guidelines when they enroll."
They added:
"[Our] expectations regarding appropriate prom attire were communicated to this student and the student's family in advance of the prom."
"While we certainly respect a student's right to disagree, all of our students know from our school handbook that when they do not follow such expectations at school-sponsored events, they may be asked to leave."
Given this information, a few on social media sided with the school's decision.
\u201c@NC5 Their school, their rules. You and your parents are all well aware of this before you fork out that mega money to send you there. I didn\u2019t have a prom because the denomination that my school was (not I was) doesn\u2019t believe in dancing. Everyone knew that was the case in advance.\u201d— NewsChannel 5 (@NewsChannel 5) 1682470011
\u201c@NC5 Her and her parents know the rules. If she doesn\u2019t want to attend this school then she can go to a public school. The school is not the bad player in this situation\u201d— NewsChannel 5 (@NewsChannel 5) 1682470011
Others noted the suit was very modest while other dresses in the photo were quite revealing.
\u201c@NC5 soooo no entry without a teenager showing skin whilst wearing a dress? Got it... From one to another, I would not call that good Christian or moral values OR leading by example..\u201d— NewsChannel 5 (@NewsChannel 5) 1682470011
\u201c@NC5 So what exactly is this dress code because just from that pic of them you can see a backless dress and a low cut dress from the two girls by the SUV? It\u2019s ok to show lots of skin at a Christian school but someone fully covered is denied because they are wearing pants? #JudgeNot\u201d— NewsChannel 5 (@NewsChannel 5) 1682470011
As the story continued to spread, many learning of the story wanted to step in and take action.
Local business owner Marcie Allen Van Mol learned about the incident through social media and wanted to do something, so she and her husband Derek, who own the Nashville music venue and event space AB Hillsboro Village, offered to throw Hayes their very own prom to enjoy with 25 of their friends.
Van Mol shared:
“It just really upset me that this child was not allowed to attend their prom because they weren’t wearing a dress. It is that simple of an issue. And it’s not OK."
Other local businesses follow suit, and soon the prom was promised a photo booth, flowers and even live music courtesy of Tone Stith.
Allison Holley, another local business owner, started a GoFundMe campaign for the prom to ensure the contributing businesses won't lose money and all expenses will be covered.
The GoFundMe page reads:
"I, Allison, am helping Marcie & Derrick of [AB] Hillsboro Village throw this event. The money donated will be used to throw the best prom ever."
"We are making sure the small businesses who help don't lose money & expenses are covered but we aren't paying out any profits. Nobody will profit from this event."
"It is strictly to throw the best prom for B & then support their favorite local charities. All additional funds donated [will] be split between Oasis Center & Inclusion TN (selected by B Hayes)."
People on social media—especially locals—were blown away by the generosity of the business owners and were also elated that Hayes will get their prom after all.
\u201cNashville senior banned from prom for wearing a suit. Local music venue owners step up to let them throw their own prom for them and their friends. \n\nWe do truly love to see it.\u201d— Franklin Leonard (@Franklin Leonard) 1682507295
\u201c@franklinleonard\u201d— Franklin Leonard (@Franklin Leonard) 1682507295
\u201cThank you to @anzieblue and many others for stepping up to right this wrong. The \ud83d\udc9c of Nashville is beautiful and loving. #TN55 https://t.co/54dzmOvgei\u201d— John Ray Clemmons (@John Ray Clemmons) 1682421522
\u201c@JRClemmons @anzieblue Ok this one got me right in the feels. This is the Nashvill I grew up in! This is my Nashville filled with love & inclusion.\u201d— John Ray Clemmons (@John Ray Clemmons) 1682421522
\u201c@JRClemmons @KateCraigTN @anzieblue This is what community is about \u2764\ufe0f\u201d— John Ray Clemmons (@John Ray Clemmons) 1682421522
\u201c@JRClemmons @KateCraigTN @anzieblue Oh goodness this made be cry!!! I am SO proud of every single person who stepped up to show this child there ARE loving, accepting people in this world!! What an amazing couple \u2764\ufe0f\u201d— John Ray Clemmons (@John Ray Clemmons) 1682421522
So far, nearly $29,000 has been raised through the GoFundMe, already surpassing its goal of $25k.
Hayes texted a statement to NPR:
"I greatly appreciate the support from my city and my community. The love I have been shown by my friends and family will not be taken lightly."
"I just ask that during this time I have the privacy to enjoy the rest of my senior year."
"I would also like for this attention to shift towards those who have experienced similar situations, you are not alone and there are people in this world who will stand with you."
"I want to spread positivity and help others grow through this process. Thank you all so much for the love you show me!"